Assumption.

“你以为他喜欢我啊？”
“Em.”

“我觉得他这样没有错啊。他又没有做什么。”


People tends to believe in their own thinking and did not even bother to clarify.
Because of this opinionated thinking, others are often mistaken.

Did you ever regret not clarifying? And when you found out, it's already too late?

Sometimes this thinking/ assumption are the cause that makes us suffer.

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I always hate assuming. That's where people take things for granted.

"We assumed that we are used to each other selfishness."
"We assumed that people are always listening, (actually they only want people to listen)."
"We assumed we are close enough and used to the way we are behaving now."
Actually in fact, we are all assuming that we are close (when we are not).

Because of all this assumption, we just let things be.
We dare not to be frank, we try to tolerate.
Ended up all the unhappiness will explode one day and things turn ugly.

People will start to use...
"Wah, [xxx] change already cause last time [xxx] will not behave that way."
"[xxx] not happy with me/you/he/she/us."
"Have you ever respect us?"

Have you wonder all this "used to" is just our assumption only?

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I, too, make assumption.
I assume this, I assume that.
But if you know me well, you will notice my favorite question, "我问你啊，..." or "我很好奇啊, ...".
I will find a chance to ask and seek for the real answer.
I know if I ask, I will get the real answer. But when I know the person wouldn't give me the real answer, I don't bother to. I would rather choose my assume than knowing a fake answer.

Sometimes I want to stop other assuming, I hinted but the person don't get it.
I doesn't want to be too direct cause when I do, it will definitely affect our relationship. Ended up, I tolerate. I tell myself, maybe one day, I will behave the same way.

I don't blame you from your assuming cause it was me in the first place gave you that impression/ feeling/ comfort.

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Because of your assumption, we, may have, lose our fate. & It's too late.